What would you write on a Valentine card to yourself? This Valentine’s day, I call you to write a Valentine note addressed to you! A note from a place of self-love on this day that we so often tell others how much they mean to us. In your note, you can include the following: What […]
When you are in a long-term relationship, it is easy to forget that you are responsible for the care of your partner. In order to continually care well for each other over time, you must eventually become experts on each other. One of the most common complaints that I receive from the couples I see […]
Within ourselves we have two sets of needs; self needs and relational needs. In relationships, it sometimes seems that our two sets of needs directly oppose each other. The feeling that our needs are being challenged, often leads to difficulties experiencing true intimacy. On one side we have RELATIONAL NEEDS of: Union: To unite with […]
Most people operate from the perspective of “I come first” and the couple relationship comes second. We often prioritize our needs before the needs of our relationship. This works temporarily at the individual level because it seems less risky and easier to depend on yourself. However, when we see our partner operating from this individualistic […]
We each have a love language. We all have a certain way that we feel most loved. It’s those things that someone can do that make you feel so adored! Or, if your partner is unaware of you love language, it can also be those things that her or she isn’t doing and that cause […]